Bill and Marsha tried very...
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Bill and Marsha tried very hard to be effective parents. Despite their good intentions, however, they were failing. Both had been raised in households where discipline went beyond the reasonable to the edge of cruelty. They heard only criticism in their growing up years. No one ever had a positive thing to say about them or to them. Consequently, both suffered as adults from low self-esteem.
Unfortunately, neither made the connection between their childhood treatment and their adult life perspectives. Consequently, they set about to nurture their three young sons by the same "scream, spank and belittle method of child raising." Eventually, they realized that was not working. The sons they loved so dearly were increasingly becoming behavior problems. When they sought out their minister for advice, Pastor Joan quickly realized what they were doing and offered encouragement on the need to build self-esteem in children as well as some sound advice on positive parenting.
Two months later, Marsha told her pastor, "Oh, Joan, what a difference our visit made. Bill and I listen so much better to the children now. And instead of being critical of their misbehavior, we praise them when they do what is right. They are better behaved and all of us are so much happier. A wonderful change has come over our family."
I suspect we might conclude that God still opens ears to hear and tongues to speak.
-- Cueni
Unfortunately, neither made the connection between their childhood treatment and their adult life perspectives. Consequently, they set about to nurture their three young sons by the same "scream, spank and belittle method of child raising." Eventually, they realized that was not working. The sons they loved so dearly were increasingly becoming behavior problems. When they sought out their minister for advice, Pastor Joan quickly realized what they were doing and offered encouragement on the need to build self-esteem in children as well as some sound advice on positive parenting.
Two months later, Marsha told her pastor, "Oh, Joan, what a difference our visit made. Bill and I listen so much better to the children now. And instead of being critical of their misbehavior, we praise them when they do what is right. They are better behaved and all of us are so much happier. A wonderful change has come over our family."
I suspect we might conclude that God still opens ears to hear and tongues to speak.
-- Cueni
